By Tammy Thornton
This time of year brings a range of emotions, both highs and lows. For some, the “most wonderful time of the year” is filled with the pain of loss and sadness. I have been hearing people say they just don’t feel like putting up a tree or decorations this year. My family has suffered tremendous loss this year. And yet, for the sake of the children, and the hope of getting through it ourselves, the tree went up and the decorations were hung just like normal even though life is anything but…normal.
As we face the broken pieces of shattered dreams, we have a choice to throw in the towel or carry on. Sometimes, as we force ourselves to move forward, we are only going through the motions. But I find that the very act of making the start can motivate–just like forcing ourselves out of bed in the morning and taking that first step can lead to another. You may not feel like trimming a tree, or hanging lights but the process itself and the result can reward you with a little happiness in the days that follow.
For me, those steps forward aren’t always taken alone. My friendships have proven themselves as invaluable. The more you talk to people, you realize most are carrying a heavy load too. Sharing the laughter and the tears with others lightens the burdens of both. Take time to listen and surround yourselves with those that care for you as well.
Allow yourself a break from your worries. This time of year, the simple act of listening to some holiday music or hanging a string of lights can be a distraction that causes us to forget our troubles, even if it’s only for a fleeting moment. This week, I had to run an errand in the blustery cold evening. The radio happened to be tuned to the holiday music station. Suddenly, an unexpected flurry of snow started to fall and I found myself in a real life snow globe. As I drove along the streets, I could see houses lit with their version of holiday spirit. For a second, I felt a little lift in my spirits and even caught myself humming along to the music, while enjoying the decorated houses and Christmas lights.
We all need those moments to escape from our troubles. May I suggest that you make that start. Turn off the depressing news, turn on some music, string the lights, hang the wreath, and put up the tree, even if you aren’t feeling very festive at first. We might cry to the music but still see the lights glisten through our tears.
For me, Christmas isn’t about the tree, music, or lights, but a Savior that gave us Hope. But remembering that motivates me to make the start. So light the candles, surround yourself with family and friends, and spread the Spirit of Christmas to others who need it most. Wishing you all peace, love, and hope. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy New Year!
Tammy Thornton is a mom of four, a substitute teacher, and a Sunday school teacher. She is passionate about gardening and cooking, and loves the beach.
